How do you answer a question like "AM I FAT"

AM I FAT?

This question is one of the most difficult question to ever answer. Frankly I for one have been a victim of such interrogation from my female friends and perhaps girlfriends or like once when the girl at the next table turned to ask me this same question which her bf could not answer. Too bad for her i was not her bf so i did not really care about what I was going to reply. So i just said "Since you asked, I think you should stop eating your second bowl of ice cream. Cuz its really trying to find space in there (pointing to her tummy)" .

Many a times we find ourselves caught in situations whereby we are cornered so much so that we have absolutely no choice but to answer. Before i begin, i have to say i am a "pro-feminist". =) Usually when girls ask you such questions, they already know if they themselves are truly fat and they just want to appease their ears by making someone tell them that they are not at all. Which ever way you choose to answer it, you still would not be spared from the next 20 minutes of nagging and self talk. Lets say if you say "No you are not, you look lovely"... she might most probably say "No lor, cannot be. Today i have eaten so much. u see here (points to her 'perceived' problem areas)" even though she has been assured by you and she knows that shes not as fat as she thinks. BUT if you ever say that she is fat or maybe just say, "I like you when you are a little chubbier" or "i like to have something to hold when i hug you", BOY are you in for lecture of your life.

So have you ever asked yourself why women/girls in general ask such questions? Does image really mean everything to them? What about inner beauty and character and personality? Do they really think we would not love them if they put on another ten kg? But then again.... would we love them still if they put on another 20? would we still love them if they looked like a huge pineapple? Would we still love them if we had to share a seat in the bus and we are only left with a little portion of the seat big enough to place a tenth of our bottom?? So what about true love and accpepting one for their imperfections? Issit true love or true LUST? Why have we as men become so shallow? Or have we been always this shallow?

Havent we been caught so many a times at looking or even stealing a glance at another female who is well endowed with nice legs and a nice tooshie? Have you asked yourself why dont we look at women who are round, saggy and squishy and all? What about inner beauty? I have this friend who is huge, and shes really huge. Like a rhino, BUT im not going to mention her name. However when you look at her and when you talk to her, you kinda forget how big she is for shes just so sweet in nature and you kinda see her inner beauty. Shes a great friend (till i lost contact willingly cuz it was hard to have her around at meals cuz she seems to have entendable arms which kinda find way into your plate to grab that last chicken wing or fries). But shes still nice and sweet.

Just a thought to think about. If the person we are so much in love with right now at this point of time is getting fatter by the moment and probably might become unrecognisable within a month, would we still love that person? Would we still look into thier eyes and tell them we love them with all our heart and soul and even by using our peripheral visision we can see thier fats all hanging out which seem to be the size of tree trunks and when we hug them we might be able to find our fingers on the opposite hands? ( OK to be fair this question does not apply to those whose gfs and wives are the sizes of rhinos. cuz im sure you definitey do.)

I for one know that I now base my choices on inner beauty rather than outer beauty, BUT outer beauty is still important to a certain degree. As contradicting as it may seem, i too do not want to wake up to a monster. Would you? Think about it. What if we were the ones to be Huge and look like elephants? Wouldnt we want someone to love us too? So From today onwards, those of you who are shallow, do some soul searching for one day you might be the one on the losing end.

(It might sound like im fat but I'm really kinda sexy. HAHA.)