AM I FAT?
This question is one of the most difficult question to ever answer. Frankly I for one have been a victim of such interrogation from my female friends and perhaps girlfriends or like once when the girl at the next table turned to ask me this same question which her bf could not answer. Too bad for her i was not her bf so i did not really care about what I was going to reply. So i just said "Since you asked, I think you should stop eating your second bowl of ice cream. Cuz its really trying to find space in there (pointing to her tummy)" .
Many a times we find ourselves caught in situations whereby we are cornered so much so that we have absolutely no choice but to answer. Before i begin, i have to say i am a "pro-feminist". =) Usually when girls ask you such questions, they already know if they themselves are truly fat and they just want to appease their ears by making someone tell them that they are not at all. Which ever way you choose to answer it, you still would not be spared from the next 20 minutes of nagging and self talk. Lets say if you say "No you are not, you look lovely"... she might most probably say "No lor, cannot be. Today i have eaten so much. u see here (points to her 'perceived' problem areas)" even though she has been assured by you and she knows that shes not as fat as she thinks. BUT if you ever say that she is fat or maybe just say, "I like you when you are a little chubbier" or "i like to have something to hold when i hug you", BOY are you in for lecture of your life.
So have you ever asked yourself why women/girls in general ask such questions? Does image really mean everything to them? What about inner beauty and character and personality? Do they really think we would not love them if they put on another ten kg? But then again.... would we love them still if they put on another 20? would we still love them if they looked like a huge pineapple? Would we still love them if we had to share a seat in the bus and we are only left with a little portion of the seat big enough to place a tenth of our bottom?? So what about true love and accpepting one for their imperfections? Issit true love or true LUST? Why have we as men become so shallow? Or have we been always this shallow?
Havent we been caught so many a times at looking or even stealing a glance at another female who is well endowed with nice legs and a nice tooshie? Have you asked yourself why dont we look at women who are round, saggy and squishy and all? What about inner beauty? I have this friend who is huge, and shes really huge. Like a rhino, BUT im not going to mention her name. However when you look at her and when you talk to her, you kinda forget how big she is for shes just so sweet in nature and you kinda see her inner beauty. Shes a great friend (till i lost contact willingly cuz it was hard to have her around at meals cuz she seems to have entendable arms which kinda find way into your plate to grab that last chicken wing or fries). But shes still nice and sweet.
Just a thought to think about. If the person we are so much in love with right now at this point of time is getting fatter by the moment and probably might become unrecognisable within a month, would we still love that person? Would we still look into thier eyes and tell them we love them with all our heart and soul and even by using our peripheral visision we can see thier fats all hanging out which seem to be the size of tree trunks and when we hug them we might be able to find our fingers on the opposite hands? ( OK to be fair this question does not apply to those whose gfs and wives are the sizes of rhinos. cuz im sure you definitey do.)
I for one know that I now base my choices on inner beauty rather than outer beauty, BUT outer beauty is still important to a certain degree. As contradicting as it may seem, i too do not want to wake up to a monster. Would you? Think about it. What if we were the ones to be Huge and look like elephants? Wouldnt we want someone to love us too? So From today onwards, those of you who are shallow, do some soul searching for one day you might be the one on the losing end.
(It might sound like im fat but I'm really kinda sexy. HAHA.)
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Sunday, April 27, 2008
If every thought cost a dollar, I would be a tycoon. Or would I?
When then would we learn....
When then would we learn that many things we do would some what have an adverse effect on someone else or something else to a certain extend. Do we even think about what the other party has to go through? Lets say parking outside a designated parking lot might cause someone else to not be able to find another parking lot, or leaving the tap on while soaping yourself might cause someone else to have not enough water in some other part of the world, or even picking your nose and leaving your booger stuck underneath some mrt seat or even maybe letting go of air when we really need to? See.. many things we do is for our own pleasure or rather for our own convenience, not bothering or giving two hoots about what someone else might experience or face, and most of the time, or rather all the time, we just seem to brush that particular thought aside. Not wanting to crack our brains or put ourselves into someone else's shoes.
Lets say having friends. Why do we even bother to make friends? Becuase we want benefits? because we have too much love in our hearts to share?? Dont we make friends so that we will not feel alone or insignificant at any given time or place? So that they can pray for us? So that they will remember our presence and be there for us when we are down? So that they can be our listening ear when we have so many things to unload from our hearts? So that we can get help when we need it? So that we can spend time with someone on a free weekend? So that we have someone to sit with in class? So that we can share notes and get help in our assignments? So that we can save money when we Pool our money to say go on a holiday? TO basically FILL OUR VOID which many of us choose not to see or even think about? Yes it really shows how selfish we are. Dont tell me we have friends because we have so much money and we love giving treats? Or we have all the time in the world to spare? Or we want to listen to every single problem he/she has to unload on us even if its the millionth time they are saying it?? Are we really that great and magnanimous? We are all human arent we. =) Not being skeptical but just opening the "box" for thinking.
We find love so that we would not spend our dying moments alone. So that we have a companion and a soul mate. So that we have someone to hold us when we need a hug. So that when we come home from a long day outside, we have someone there for us. So that they can make us smile, make us a cup of coffee, be there for us at any given time place or situation, being our pillar of strength, being our ray of hope. Well just to be there to love us and to accept us for all our imperfections, knowing how wretched we are and how imperfect our mannerisms may be. Dont you think so? Or do we find love because we want to love someone, because we want to be there for someone, becuase we want to make them smile, because we want to give them a massage when they are really tired while even we have worked our butt off the whole day with loads of work to complete, piles and piles of bills to pay, trying to make ends meet, after having it rough with our colleauges and friends, squeezing in the mrt and having someone to shove you around and step on your toes and worse of all fighting this spiritual battle??? Im not sure about you but i sure would do it for these reasons i just mentioned. But are we really that great or do we have hidden intentions that sin has caused us to have that WE ARE NOT EVEN AWARE ABOUT?
People say i think too much. Well i just say i have a creative and a hungry mind. Hungry for information, hungry for thought, hungry for answers, hungry for improvement, hungry for options. Meticulous and wierd as my thoughts may seem, It really issit. I think but i dont dream. I just like having more options and thinking ourside this little box that we have. So am i really thinking too much or are people not bothering to even think? Cuz they are so selfish and so sucked into their own little solar systems, where the whole world revolves around them? Not bothering about the consequences because somewhere someone somehow would just solve the problem for them? Well at least i know that when i become OLDER, i wont be suffering from ALZJIMER or having my brain cells slowly being eaten way by the abundance of time and the insufficient capabilities i have to do anything for myself. Wouldnt everyone be more caring and more loving and more thoughtful if we took time to think about what we say or what we do or what we want to do? Or would it just cause us to remain at a standstill and even having the possibility to lose all that we might have? Or would it give us more time to do things other than spend time unwisely like on blogs and what not? Or maybe make ourselves better lovers, companions or even children to our parents? Wont we be able to consider how others might feel before we even think of doing it?
See now u might find you dun think enough. Its time to reflect on the things we do. And how if by doing it differently in the past, we at this point of time might be just somewhere else, doing something else with someone else.
2 Cents worth.
When then would we learn that many things we do would some what have an adverse effect on someone else or something else to a certain extend. Do we even think about what the other party has to go through? Lets say parking outside a designated parking lot might cause someone else to not be able to find another parking lot, or leaving the tap on while soaping yourself might cause someone else to have not enough water in some other part of the world, or even picking your nose and leaving your booger stuck underneath some mrt seat or even maybe letting go of air when we really need to? See.. many things we do is for our own pleasure or rather for our own convenience, not bothering or giving two hoots about what someone else might experience or face, and most of the time, or rather all the time, we just seem to brush that particular thought aside. Not wanting to crack our brains or put ourselves into someone else's shoes.
Lets say having friends. Why do we even bother to make friends? Becuase we want benefits? because we have too much love in our hearts to share?? Dont we make friends so that we will not feel alone or insignificant at any given time or place? So that they can pray for us? So that they will remember our presence and be there for us when we are down? So that they can be our listening ear when we have so many things to unload from our hearts? So that we can get help when we need it? So that we can spend time with someone on a free weekend? So that we have someone to sit with in class? So that we can share notes and get help in our assignments? So that we can save money when we Pool our money to say go on a holiday? TO basically FILL OUR VOID which many of us choose not to see or even think about? Yes it really shows how selfish we are. Dont tell me we have friends because we have so much money and we love giving treats? Or we have all the time in the world to spare? Or we want to listen to every single problem he/she has to unload on us even if its the millionth time they are saying it?? Are we really that great and magnanimous? We are all human arent we. =) Not being skeptical but just opening the "box" for thinking.
We find love so that we would not spend our dying moments alone. So that we have a companion and a soul mate. So that we have someone to hold us when we need a hug. So that when we come home from a long day outside, we have someone there for us. So that they can make us smile, make us a cup of coffee, be there for us at any given time place or situation, being our pillar of strength, being our ray of hope. Well just to be there to love us and to accept us for all our imperfections, knowing how wretched we are and how imperfect our mannerisms may be. Dont you think so? Or do we find love because we want to love someone, because we want to be there for someone, becuase we want to make them smile, because we want to give them a massage when they are really tired while even we have worked our butt off the whole day with loads of work to complete, piles and piles of bills to pay, trying to make ends meet, after having it rough with our colleauges and friends, squeezing in the mrt and having someone to shove you around and step on your toes and worse of all fighting this spiritual battle??? Im not sure about you but i sure would do it for these reasons i just mentioned. But are we really that great or do we have hidden intentions that sin has caused us to have that WE ARE NOT EVEN AWARE ABOUT?
People say i think too much. Well i just say i have a creative and a hungry mind. Hungry for information, hungry for thought, hungry for answers, hungry for improvement, hungry for options. Meticulous and wierd as my thoughts may seem, It really issit. I think but i dont dream. I just like having more options and thinking ourside this little box that we have. So am i really thinking too much or are people not bothering to even think? Cuz they are so selfish and so sucked into their own little solar systems, where the whole world revolves around them? Not bothering about the consequences because somewhere someone somehow would just solve the problem for them? Well at least i know that when i become OLDER, i wont be suffering from ALZJIMER or having my brain cells slowly being eaten way by the abundance of time and the insufficient capabilities i have to do anything for myself. Wouldnt everyone be more caring and more loving and more thoughtful if we took time to think about what we say or what we do or what we want to do? Or would it just cause us to remain at a standstill and even having the possibility to lose all that we might have? Or would it give us more time to do things other than spend time unwisely like on blogs and what not? Or maybe make ourselves better lovers, companions or even children to our parents? Wont we be able to consider how others might feel before we even think of doing it?
See now u might find you dun think enough. Its time to reflect on the things we do. And how if by doing it differently in the past, we at this point of time might be just somewhere else, doing something else with someone else.
2 Cents worth.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
The only reason WHY.....
The only reason why people blog is because they have no one to talk to.
This might come across as a really scary thought to a certain degree, for all of man kind need a form of companionship. Be it a frog, dog, cat, monkey, a loved one, or even to the extent of a picture of a person who would never appear before our eyes. As scary as it may seem, people vent their angers and thoughts on such means as blogs to express how they feel about things that have happened throughout thier day like a day in school or work or just because they have nothing else better to actually do. Sometimes they do get into trouble for posting stuff which are either insulting to another religion, race or even one's governing body.
In hope that some poor soul might stumble on upon thier blog, read it and feel either really sorry or perhaps emphatise with them on how they feel and in return, and to think that the bloggers themselves might find some form of comfort in that? As pathetic and pityful as this may seem to the vast majority, little does everyone know that everyone else might just be doing the same. Wallowing in their own pityful and sorrowful state. Scary issnt it?
Even at this very point of time, I myself might be just be doing that. Not for pity or empathy, not to vent on or even finding a "unloading zone" for all my trouble or weariness. So why Blog? Could it be because no one bothers to listen for all are selfish? Or could it be the cause of not being able to find the right words? U know that, this might just be the perfect example of "CATHARSIS". Go figure.
This might come across as a really scary thought to a certain degree, for all of man kind need a form of companionship. Be it a frog, dog, cat, monkey, a loved one, or even to the extent of a picture of a person who would never appear before our eyes. As scary as it may seem, people vent their angers and thoughts on such means as blogs to express how they feel about things that have happened throughout thier day like a day in school or work or just because they have nothing else better to actually do. Sometimes they do get into trouble for posting stuff which are either insulting to another religion, race or even one's governing body.
In hope that some poor soul might stumble on upon thier blog, read it and feel either really sorry or perhaps emphatise with them on how they feel and in return, and to think that the bloggers themselves might find some form of comfort in that? As pathetic and pityful as this may seem to the vast majority, little does everyone know that everyone else might just be doing the same. Wallowing in their own pityful and sorrowful state. Scary issnt it?
Even at this very point of time, I myself might be just be doing that. Not for pity or empathy, not to vent on or even finding a "unloading zone" for all my trouble or weariness. So why Blog? Could it be because no one bothers to listen for all are selfish? Or could it be the cause of not being able to find the right words? U know that, this might just be the perfect example of "CATHARSIS". Go figure.
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